The Let Them Theory: Dog Edition

Mel Robbins book “Let Them” has absolutely blown up-and with good reason. So now, it’s the dog’s turn!

The “Let Them” theory isn’t exactly groundbreaking. It’s been floating around the self-help and personal growth world forever and more recently brought into the spotlight and popularized by author and podcaster Mel Robbins.

Basically, it’s the idea that we can’t control other people or circumstances (shocker), but we can control our own thoughts, feelings, and reactions.

Think of it like the Buddhist “two arrows” concept: the first arrow is life doing its thing (traffic, annoying people, spilled coffee). No choice there. The second arrow is how we respond (cue the meltdown or the shrug). That one’s on us.

But here’s the twist: I want to apply it to dogs. Because let’s be honest-we humans love to micromanage our pups. We control their schedules, their walks, their food, their everything. And maybe, just maybe, it’s time to chill.

So I present to you:

The 10 Commandments of “Let Them” for Dogs.

It’s about YOU letting go of the leash on perfection and embracing joy, chaos, mud puddles, zoomies, quirks, and individuality. In other words, stop trying to manage every little thing-and just let them. And further more, let yourself actually let go a bit. I dare you.

Let Them Sniff. Every tree, hydrant, and blade of grass is their newspaper, their history book, their favorite podcast. Why human, are you in such a hurry anyway? Slow down.

Let Them Rest. Not every day has to be a marathon of training, fetch, or activities. Human and dog brains and bodies need downtime too. Sometimes it’s a minimal activity day or a day more with more of a “do nothing” vibe.

Let Them Be Silly. Zoomies, floppy rolls in the grass, or barking at a leaf-it’s their joy, not ours to judge. Try to find joy in their joy. You don’t have to understand it, just let me be joyful and silly.

Let Them Say No. Consent matters. If they don’t want pets, play, or to meet that other dog-honor it. It’s not always about what the human wants or needs. Is it a human goal or a dog goal?

Let Them Play Their Way. Whether they chase, tug, wrestle, or carry toys around like trophies, let them choose their version of fun. Fetch isn’t for everyone-even Retrievers.

Let Them Take Their Time. Walks don’t need to be rushed. Pausing, sniffing, and observing the world are part of the journey. We can learn a lot from dogs by slowing down.

Let Them Be Messy. Muddy paws, wet fur, slobbery kisses-they’re not inconveniences, they’re evidence of living. Annoying to humans-yes; but joyful for them!

Let Them Feel Safe. Provide comfort, routine, and connection so the world feels less scary and more navigable. Always be their safe spot-no matter what.

Let Them Age With Grace. Adjust expectations, soften the pace, and celebrate the wisdom in their silver muzzles (make sure they get extra kisses-but only if they want them of course).

Let Them Be Loved-Exactly As They Are. Not the “perfect dog” from the internet, but the real, quirky, sometimes chaotic companion who chose you and continues to choose you every day (so chose them back!)